I Have Had Enough!
Beyond #MeToo!
The whole Pelicot Rape story has been on the edge of my awareness over the last week. I was dancing around it, avoiding looking at it. I didn’t want to feel devastated. I finally let it in today and all I feel is rage. I am so sick of these men and their entitlement, their excuses, their thoughts, their choices and the list continue. It can’t be avoided. I am beyond sick of this rotten-to-the-core patriarchal culture. (Yes, I know all men are not like this. I am married to one who is not like this. If you are a man and not like this (i.e.. Walter Rhein, Jason Provencio and many other supportive men on this forum) I am not speaking to you right now. However, if you find you are triggered and defensive, then maybe it’s time for you too take a good look at yourself and stop making excuses. Maybe its time to set the man mantle aside and become human for a change.
Thirty years ago, I entered a Women’s Spirituality Master’s Program because I wanted a better world for my daughter. For a time, I had hope. Those hopes are getting consistently shattered, day after day after day. Harvey Weinstein, R Kelly, Jeffrey Epstein, Donald Trump, P Diddy, and the list goes on and on and on. And now, 80 local, not famous men around a small town in France raped a local woman because her husband invited them. What the fuck? What the fuck are we doing to create monsters out of men? Regular, everyday men without a lot of power that we are sisters to, married to, work with, pass by on the street, see at the grocery store, date and more. Our husbands, our brothers, our co-workers, our bosses, our neighbors, etc, etc, etc.
I know. I am saying nothing new here. But when the fuck are men going to shut up and listen to us and start behaving like human beings who care about other human beings, the way we are designed? Somehow 80 local men in small town France thought it was perfectly okay to rape a drugged woman because her husband invited them to. How sickeningly depraved our world is. It has been depraved for a long time. It has been depraved since the onset of Patriarchy.
When will we cast down this great trauma recycling system called Patriarchy which creates monsters out of men and denies women personhood along with pretty much anyone that does not conform to its sick and anti-human social norms? Do we really have to wait until we kill the planet and all life on it? When will we stop the cycle of violence against our mother and her female children? I just read a piece yesterday by Katie Jgln that explained how the cult of manhood, with its big trucks and toys, contributes far more to climate change than women. This cult also consistently denies, which makes it outright incompetent (AKA Ron DeSantis failure to govern responsibly in Florida, leading to more problems for the people of Florida when massive hurricanes inevitably strike).
Yes, I know, some white women and other tokens like Mark Robinson buy into this shit, thinking it will protect them. Apparently, they aren’t unable to think things through very well. They aren’t thinking about anyone else but themselves like so many Patriarchal men. What they fail to realize is that once they have played their part, they too will be thrown under the bus. Not too smart!
Patriarchal men it is time for you to Shut the fuck up and sit down! Your time is up. You fucking blew it. You blew it all up. This planet is a fucking mess, and you played the biggest role in creating that mess. Stop starting wars. Stop creating destructive technology, stop throwing your man parts around indiscriminately, stop feeding your greed addictions. Stop beating and raping women. Stop indoctrinating our children into your cult. Stop making stupid harmful laws. STOP!
AND….
If a woman says she was raped. Unless you are supporting her. Shut the Fuck up!
What women do with our bodies is none of your business. Unless you are supporting our right to autonomy, Shut the fuck up!
When a women speak up and ask for equity. Shut the fuck up!
When indigenous, LGBTQ, Transgender and people of color speak up about their experiences. Shut the fuck up!
When it comes time to clean up your mess, you get no say, except to apologize and bow your head. Otherwise, Shut the Fuck Up!
Unless you are supporting a kind and just society for all. SHUT THE FUCK UP and step down! Make reparations. Then, go get some therapy. You need it, because you are definitely not ok, and because of you, nobody else is either.